Reaching In
If someone you love is depressed, you may be experiencing any number of difficult emotions, including helplessness, frustration, anger, fear, guilt, and sadness. These feelings are all normal. It’s not easy dealing with a friend or family member’s depression. And if you neglect your own health, it can become overwhelming.
That said, your companionship and support can be crucial to your loved one’s recovery. You can help them to cope with depression symptoms, overcome negative thoughts, and regain their energy, optimism, and enjoyment of life. Start by learning all you can about depression and how to best talk about it with your friend or family member. But as you reach out, don’t forget to look after your own emotional health—you’ll need it to provide the full support your loved one needs.
Your support and encouragement can play an important role in your loved one’s recovery. Here's how to make a difference:
SAY WHAT YOU SEE
Even if you can’t talk in person, you can check in and be open about the changes you’ve noticed in their behavior. Don’t make assumptions or judge. Be straightforward and ask how much they’re feeling amongst all this uncertainty.
SHOW YOU CARE
Let them know you’re there for them and that you care about what they need. Then, ask what you can do to help. Scheduling check-ins or sending them something cheerful can go a long way.
HEAR THEM OUT
Remember that this is about them. It’s okay if there’s an awkward pause in your conversation. Give them the space to be honest about how they’re feeling. It’s okay if they don’t want to talk, just let them know you’re around if they do.
KNOW YOUR ROLE
Your job is to be their friend, not their therapist. Let them know that their feelings are valid and avoid sugarcoating your responses.
CONNECT TO HELP
Help them schedule an online check-in with their therapist, share digital resources or research options. If they’re in a crisis, stay connected with them until they’re safe and a health professional takes over. To learn more about resources, click here.